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People never forget how you make them feel

June 27, 2020 / 44 Comments

People never forget how you make them feel

When I connected with my old friend on her birthday, she was so happy that we spoke to each other after ages. After our long chat, she reminded me of the time I had baked a cake for her, on her birthday. I heard her and tried hard to recollect about it as I couldn’t think of anything happening close to it. Then she started talking more about how I had walked all the way to her house with the cake which had M&M’s toppings. Ahh! It suddenly clicked me that, Yes! I did do that.

Well, this is just one incident I am sharing when I have felt that Ahh! moment. However, there have been several moments in my life when I have experienced this. It made me wonder that we really never forget what a person makes us feel. But I thought about this further. I  wondered “Why so?” “Why there are some memories which we never forget whatsoever?” “And why we remember only some specific memories about a person”. All these “whys” finally had reason/s.

1. We really don’t expect from them:

All of us have certain belief systems and we generally pertain to it. And we have certain expectations from the people around us. It is that moment when the person does something beyond our expectation is when we really remember the moment, as it doesn’t fall in our so-called belief system. Our mind goes, “Oh! well, that never happened before.” or “This happens so rarely.”

2. Its generally a feeling what we long for:

We have always expected or longed for a feeling from others and obviously we haven’t received it the way we thought we would. So, when we unpredictably receive it from someone, we feel overwhelmed about it. It stays with us.

3. We always remember what we want to remember:

Unconsciously, we always remember things which are important to us and we want to remember them. We don’t intend to forget anything or remember something, it’s all in the unconscious frame.

4. Incidences are conditioned with emotions:

When we remember an incident, it’s mostly because we exactly remember how we felt at that moment more than the incident alone. We re-live it and feel exactly how we felt at that time. So maybe we can say that it’s the emotion behind which helps us to remember a particular incident. That’s why people never forget a certain incident.

To conclude, I would like to say that it’s so overwhelming to know that someone remembers us, maybe, just by our small gesture (or because of our extraordinary efforts). Remembering such incidences also depicts how they acknowledge us in such an impactful manner. I feel this is one of the reasons how we learn to sustain relationships as we just bond over that feeling more than anything else- feeling of being special.

Let me know what you think ! and don’t forget to read my last blog: https://souloutpourings.com/and-that-was-my-trigger/

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